Saturday, December 31, 2005

The Law of Allowing

Do you think that if someone with beliefs opposed to yours gets their way, you can't have your way? Or do you believe there's room for it all?

Of the three Universal Laws of Attraction, the Law of Allowing is where the rubber meets the road.

The truth is, there is freedom in allowing circumstances to be what they are and people to be who they are, whether you agree with them or not. Really. Even when it comes to poverty or war or disease.

So, how in the world do you accept situations and people that stand for something you don't? Or that want the opposite of what you want? We tend to think we can't have it both ways. So what do we do? We push back! We hold protest marches against war, we organize campaigns against drugs, we battle disease.

And yet, understanding the Law of Attraction -- that whatever you are focused on you attract more of -- when you are focused on what you do not want in an effort to defeat it or resist it, you are not allowing what you do want to flow to you.

The Law of Allowing is about relaxing – having a relaxed, but positively focused mind – and allowing the Universe to deliver to you what you’re wanting.

When you say yes to something, you attract more of that into your life, because that is what you are focused on. When you say no to something, you attract more of that into your life, because that is what you are focused on. So in order to allow what you want to flow to you, you must allow others to focus on what they want - even if you don't agree with it.

In other words, be more consciously selective about where you choose to focus your attention. Rather than going into resistance about something you don't want or don't agree with, flip your thoughts around to what you do want and make 'Just Say Yes!' your slogan.

Allow what you want to come to you by yes'ing your way through life. 'Just Say Yes' to abundance. 'Just Say Yes' to great relationships. 'Just Say Yes' to a healthy body. 'Just Say Yes' to work that you love. Get the picture? Your job is to simply identify what you want, get into the feeling place of having it and then allow it to flow to you by holding your focus there.

When you understand these principles and put them to use consciously, intentionally and deliberately, you put yourself in a place of non-resistance. How do you know if you're allowing? By noticing how you feel. Your emotions are always your guide. Whenever you are in a place of feeling good, you are in a place of allowing.

Nothing is more important than that you feel good!

To your continued success!

Friday, December 30, 2005

The Science of a Positive Attitude

A Native American elder once described his own inner struggles in this manner: “Inside of me there are two dogs. One of the dogs is mean and evil. The other dog is good. The mean dog fights all the time.” When asked which dog wins he reflected for a moment and replied,“The one I feed the most.” – George Bernard Shaw

Quantum physicists have been playing with the notion that our thoughts and feelings have a direct influence on the physical world. Everything, they say, is connected through energy. You know already about the Laws of Attraction and how much your thoughts and feelings have to do with what you create in your life. Did you know that scientists are now agreeing with what we call the Laws of Attraction? They are!

Here's a simplified explanation of this scientific phenomena we call the Law of Attraction:

  1. At the sub-atomic level, everything is always in motion. Time and space don’t exist as we know them. A butterfly merrily flapping its wings in Japan can affect the weather in New York. It’s all energy that interacts simultaneously.
  1. Thoughts and feelings are also energy. (They have been measured as such).
  1. Because thoughts and feelings are energy, they vibrate (move). Each thought and feeling vibrates at a specific frequency (how fast it vibrates). Negative feelings vibrate at a slower frequency than positive feelings.
  1. The power (amplitude) of the thought or feeling is affected by the strength of the thought or feeling, which in turn is impacted by the number of times that thought/feeling is focused on. That is, if you keep repeating, “money corrupts”, it amplifies the vibration of that thought.

Remember, everything is energy, and all energy vibrates at a specific characteristic frequency.

OK. Now, we get into the scientific Law of Attraction. The scientific Law of Attraction states that an object (physical object, thought, feeling) will naturally attract that with which it is in vibrational harmony. Strike a tuning fork, and the strings that are in tune with that vibrating object will also begin to vibrate. Thoughts, ideas, and emotions must follow this Law of Attraction because they too are "objects" with an energetic vibration.

Now we get to the fun part. I suspect by now you really understand the Law of Attraction – like attracts like. Like thoughts or feelings attract thoughts and feelings that are vibrating at the same or similar frequencies. Likewise, these thoughts and feelings attract PHYSICAL objects (people, events) that are vibrating at a similar frequency.

But, how does our mind actually take all this in and process it?

Your brain is assaulted by thousands of messages each second. Everything you see, hear, smell, feel and touch is a message entering your brain.

Part of your brain filters through all these messages and decides which ones will move into your conscious awareness. Have you ever purchased a new car, only to see thousands of that same car and color on the road for the next week? How about when two people can go to a movie and have entirely different experiences? If you've ever experienced that, you know what I mean by the brain’s filtering mechanism.

When you focus your attention on something you don’t want, for example “I don’t want to lose any more money!”, you’re telling your brain to flag anything related to losing money as important. You “see” more evidence to support exactly what you do NOT want to see! It flags it as important because it's what you're focused on.

Scientists say that the brain is plastic: it can and does remodel itself, sometimes within a remarkably short period of time. And with the brain, timing is everything. What this means for you is that as you focus more of your attention on positive thoughts, you are actually shifting the neural pathways of your brain!

This is why it gets easier as you practice shifting your focus and practicing positive thoughts! Your brain is actually "reprogramming" itself to notice more positive things.

This is particularly interesting when you think about the impact it can have on our ability to succeed at something. If you're focused on the "mean dog", as in George Bernard Shaw's quote, that is - why you're failing - you'll strengthen those neural pathways. Conversely, a continual focus on the "good dog", success with a positive mental attitude - strengthens the neural pathways for success.

To your continued success!

Thursday, December 29, 2005

The Law of Deliberate Creation

Infinite growth. Eternal change. Never-ending creation. It all begins with thought. Literally, every thought you have influences what you are experiencing. Yet most people's lives change very little. How do you account for that? In the previous post, I said that you can deliberately choose to change your thoughts.

I had a client say to me, "I don't understand, Eva. You're telling me I'm the creator of my experience, and there's no way I would have created this crisis in my life on purpose!" I agree! Certainly not on purpose. Definitely by default. It is the lack of understanding of Universal Laws that has us creating our lives by default. Once you understand these Laws, you can begin to create what you want in your life consciously and deliberately.

When things are going wrong in our lives, we want to deny any responsibility for creating it. Yet, until you understand the power you hold and accept responsibility for everything in your life -- the good, the bad and the ugly -- you deny your true freedom in life! You are held hostage by the wants and desires and expectations of others. I've got news for you. There is no way possible to satisfy all the wants, desires, and expectations others project on you. It is a losing situation!

Simply put, the Law of Attraction means whatever you focus on you draw to you. So, if you are focused on something you do not want, you attract more of that to you. If you are focused on something you do want, you attract more of that to you. As thinking, feeling human beings we are in a constant mode of creating, whether we believe it or not.

We are creators. Anything you focus on, by Law of Attraction, you create, without exception. Your creativity never stops. The good news is once you understand the Law of Attraction, you can be deliberate in your intent. You can choose thoughts about the experiences and things you do want in your life rather than thinking thoughts about what you don't want in your life. In other words, you begin to create what you want purposefully and intentionally.

The Law of Deliberate Creation is simply understanding the Law of Attraction and then consciously and deliberately choosing the thoughts and emotions that feel better. Always reach for the thought that feels better. How do you know when you're in alignment with what you want or when you're not? Check in with your emotions. Your emotions never lie!

You may ask, "Where does action come in"? Clearly, as humans, we are action-oriented beings. Yet, when we put our focus on being in action first -- being in the 'doing' first -- we are going about our creative process backwards. The natural order is to identify how you want to feel, then identify what you want from that feeling place. From that point, you will be inspired to the right action.

Let's look at an example. One of my clients wanted to increase her chiropractic business by 30 new clients per month. When we first began the process, both of us were caught up in the tactics, the goals and the how-to's of making it happen. It really got bogged down. (Yes, even I still slip up after all these years. Dang!)

Once I realized what was going on -- trying to make something happen before getting into alignment with it emotionally -- I checked in with her. "Karen, how does this plan feel to you?" There was an enormous amount of resistance, feelings of "should" and the feeling of having to take it all on herself. We tossed it all out the window and began again with what felt good to her.

I sent her away to do absolutely nothing over the next week except get into the feeling place of what it would be like to have 30 new clients coming in every month easily and effortlessly. She journaled and visualized what a day would feel like if clients just flowed to her. She saw them appreciating her and getting the relief they were looking for. She got into the feeling place of what it would be like to have the day-to-day administration handled without her having to be involved and having it be streamlined.

From there, the inspired ideas came for the action steps that worked for her. She went to a class about a database software package that would streamline the administrative side of the business. She organized a newsletter to go out regularly and follow-up letters to be sent to prospects and past clients offering a special just for them. She even found someone else to handle it all so she could be home with her children to enjoy the planning and preparations for their Christmas holiday. Within a month, she was attracting 30 clients a month and working less in the process.

One of my favorite quotes from Abraham-Hicks is, "Nothing is more important than that you feel good!" And from that feel-good place, you can easily create all you are wanting in your life. It is the difference between coming from a negative place, working really hard to fix what is wrong -- to being in a positive place, clear about what you want and attracting it to you easily, effortlessly and joyfully.

Most of us haven't quite gotten it yet that life is supposed to be fun! Here you are in this creative playground called 'your life'. It is your job to create what you want in your imagination and get into the feeling place of it already happening. Then allow the Universe to bring about the people, places, circumstances, events and action from inspiration that allow it to become a part of your physical reality.

To your continued success!

Wednesday, December 28, 2005

The Law of Attraction

Are you aware of what a powerful creator you are? Do you know that everything that is happening to you or has ever happened to you is, without exception, in full response to your thoughts - and more importantly - the emotions behind those thoughts? Take a look at your life. There are probably some areas you're really happy with and some areas you're not so happy with. You may even believe you are a victim of your circumstances. I'm here to tell you, you are not a victim! It's simply a matter of understanding how to play the Game (of Life) by understanding the rules...the Laws that define the Game.

Would you agree that whether you believe in the law of gravity or not, it exists? It is the same with Universal Laws. They exist and affect you whether you are aware of them or not. However, Universal Laws are far more powerful than gravity. Gravity affects earth. Universal Laws are infinite and beyond all boundaries.

Of all the Laws, the single most powerful law is the Law of Attraction which says: "That which is likened unto itself is drawn" or more simply put, "Like attracts like". This means that what you are focused on, you draw to you. Here's how it works. When you are focused on what you want, you are attracting to you what you want. When you are focused on what you do not want, you are attracting to you what you do not want.

Okay, I can sense you rumbling out there and your thoughts are probably going something like "So if it's that simple and clear, why haven't we known this before?" Or, "I've been focused on wanting more money for years, so why hasn't it come to me?"

The Law is that simple. However, our thoughts are usually very unfocused and running in many directions at once. For example, you may say "I want a sleek new sportscar." In that moment, the Universe is orchestrating circumstances and events to bring it to you. And yet, usually, in the same sentence, we sabotage ourselves by saying something like, "but I can't afford it." So, in essence, the Universal forces say, "Wait a minute. Now he says he can't afford it." And you stop the energy flow.

So, take it a step further. When you are thinking about wanting a new sportscar, but feeling you can't afford it, where are your emotions vibrating? In most cases, they are vibrating in feelings of lack; feelings that you want something you really cannot have. Can you see how, by not understanding this Law - that our thoughts and emotions are our attraction base - we hold things away from us we could otherwise have?

Let's take the example of money. You say you've been wanting more money for as long as you've been alive. When you think of wanting more money, how do you feel about it? Happy? Elated? Or frustrated? Angry? Sad? Maybe, jealous of those who do have money? In my experience, this particular subject has more people on an emotional roller-coaster than all other subjects combined. The good news is that it doesn't matter how long you've felt this way or how can literally turn it around and begin flowing money to you by consciously and deliberately practicing the Law of Attraction through your thoughts and feelings.

Anything in your life you want to change, you can - simply by understanding the Law of Attraction, and choosing to deliberately change your thoughts and constantly reach for the thought that feels better. The way you predominantly feel about any given subject is your barometer for knowing what your balance of thought is on that subject. The circumstances of your life is another indicator. If you're ever wondering which end of the barometer your thoughts are on, check in with your emotions. Your emotions never lie about the way you are flowing your energy.

To your continued success!

Tuesday, December 27, 2005

Kick the Year Off Right: Set Your Theme for 2006!

What is your theme for 2006 going to be? I'm not asking what your goals are with accomplishments by dates, or what your resolutions are going to be. Rather, what your vision or dream for the upcoming year is going to be. What do you feel energy or excitement around? What is it that you will be able to wrap yourself around and embrace? What is the thing that you can really connect with? What engages your imagination and feels compelling. That "something" that makes you want to work towards it, give it life, and make it dance!

Relax - this does not have to be a linear process. It can be as full of creativity as you desire. Some clients have created collages, others have picked a theme song and others have used menus as their theme.

Are you excited? Are you ready to place YOUR theme on 2006? Ready to give it life and feel it pulse? Here are some questions to stimulate your thoughts:

  1. If your vision were a piece of music, what piece would it be?
  2. If your vision was from nature, what would it be? Perhaps it would be a tree, the ocean, a babbling brook, etc.
  3. What does your vision taste like?
  4. What does your dream smell like?
  5. Is your dream a color?
  6. What other senses can you use to develop your vision?
  7. What if your vision were a thousand times bigger? Describe what it would be.
  8. Are you forcing anything? Where can you ease off?
  9. What metaphor would you use to describe your vision?
  10. What can you take less seriously?
  11. Are there any rules you are holding on to? What can you eliminate?
  12. How would a 6-year old describe your vision?
  13. Ask yourself some "what if" questions. What if ________?
  14. Add one outrageous or wacky element to your vision.

Use these questions as a springboard to jumpstart your theme creation. Be as free, wild and inspired as you'd like. It's your theme, something for you to create and watch it take shape and evolve over the coming months. This exercise is meant to be a fun and productive way to start 2006.

Once you've identified your theme for the year, take a moment to think about who you are and who you wish to become. See yourself one year from today.

  1. If you could have anything you want and no possible way to fail, what would it be? What do you most want for yourself?
  2. When you look back on this period of your life, what do you want to remember? What experiences do you want? What accomplishments?

Write a letter to yourself that describes where you will be one year from today based on the questions above. Date it and seal it in an envelope to be opened only by you, and put it in a place where you'll find it one year from today.

Enjoy it, and remember that the sky is the limit!

Happy 2006 - and beyond!

Monday, December 26, 2005

Clearing Out The Old to Make Room for the New

The New Year, that is!

Are you ready to embrace 2006 with a vengeance? Are you ready to set your intentions, and put the Laws of Attraction to use in the coming year? If so, the best way to bring in the New Year is by being prepared, by taking stock of all that happened in 2005. Ask yourself, how did 2005 measure up for you? Did you set your goals and watch them materialize? Did you have a few obstacles get in your path? What were some of your challenges and successes?

Here is an exercise that I use with my clients at the end of each year to get them ready for the possibilities of the year to come. It can be a fairly lengthy process; in fact, I encourage you to spend as much time on this exercise as you need, be it twenty minutes or a few hours. You will not be disappointed.

You may want to jog your memory by going back through your calendar, journal, coaching notes, and/or looking at each area of your life: friends, health, personal growth, spirituality, money, career, home, possessions, fun, recreation etc. Answer the following questions, while assessing what 2005 was for you:

  1. Make a list of all of your disappointments, failures, losses, upsets and breakdowns. Acknowledge what these items are. Year-end is a wonderful time to make the decision to let them go, carry them forward, or make a new promise.

    Identify the ones you are willing to let go and on a piece of paper, create a symbol that represents this list. State to yourself, "I now release all old energy back to the Universe and make way for all new possibilities coming my way. And so it is." Take your paper symbol and release the energy back into the Universe by burning it, burying it, or tearing into tiny bits and throwing it away.

    Identify the ones you commit to making a new promise around and hold them to include in your New Year intentions.
  2. Make a list of all of your wins, successes, joys, delights, breakthroughs and just awesome things that have happened to you during 2005. This is a chance to celebrate and own what you have become this year. Where did you step into your power and greatness? Please don't gloss over these. The little stuff DOES count, NO modesty is allowed! It's time to validate and take ownership of all that you have accomplished in 2005.
  3. What have you learned about yourself and your life? What insights have you gained? True insights have the transformational capability to shift us into a new more alive place. As we are blessed with insights, it is important to nurture and deepen these new understandings. These are our wonderful foundation for personal growth.
  4. What are you grateful for? This list might include some of the above, and/or anything else you truly appreciate about yourself, the people, the things or activities that are in your life. There is a basic principle that whatever you appreciate and give thanks for will increase in your life.
  5. What would be a fun, special, personal thing to do for yourself in celebration of your 2005 accomplishments? How will you honor yourself? You deserve it!

This is a powerful exercise designed to put the current year in perspective, and let you ready yourself to move forward into the New Year with your loose ends firmly tied up. I guarantee that you will rediscover some wins that you forgot about, learn some things about yourself, and you may even be able to eliminate some energy drains and leave them in the dust as you move forward into 2006!

2006 is full of possibilities and potential just waiting for you.

Happy New Year! Eva
The Feel Good Guide